A peek towards the bright future!

Ok, I was in class today and I had a strange feeling that I would like to share. My marketing professor was so enthusiastic as usual talking about customer relationship and the impact of customer retention and stability on the profit of a company from a financial perspective. While listening to those deep marketing terminologies such as "Customer acquisition" and "customer equity" and the "trust building mechanism" in relationship marketing; my eye just lead astray staring at this lined up window in the corner of the class and asking

How long will it take me to finish my MBA? Is it worth it? If I were to take my bachelor degree and work in Kuwait; will I be in a better position? I mean I'll be around the family for sure which is always a big advantage? But will my MBA degree really make a big difference..



I looked back to my professor and she was continuing her lecture concentrating on the impact of marketing actions on a firm’s value! And she was so upset on some companies that do not offer a capital cost for their marketing strategies! She repeated "I would debate any CEO that a marketing strategy is the way to build continues profit and growth to a company!" With all the energy that she had and all the attention she got from my classmates..


I turned around to the window and continued my own thoughts. I start visualizing myself living in Kuwait. I would wake up 7:30 am, take a shower, wear my (Dishdasha, '3etra, 3egal), and get ready for work. I would leave my room going directly to the living room where I would see my mother with her cup of tea and milk "sweet in low" reading Alwatan Newspaper. I would go to her; Kiss her head and hand and chat with her for about 10 minutes.



Until my father opens up the speakers all around the house asking (Sorayda make for me Fa7am, Sorayda make for me Fa7am.) Than I would continue chatting with my mother and say -How will they make fa7am for him?- Is Dad expecting them to take pieces of black Cole mixing it with Sault and black pepper and cook it with onions and carrots until they are as hot as hell? And my mother would laugh out loud as if it was the JOKE of the mounth, probably she will pick up the phone and call one of my brothers saying (Did you hear what Abdulrahman just said?)And they will laugh about it all day!?

At that moment the elevator will open and my father -Basheer the Great- comes out!His body is straight as always spreading his chest and raising his head up high with a beautiful smile that shines our morning. I would go to him kiss his head and hand and offer him a cup of milk with 2 inches of Arabian coffee for his own willing and desire.



We would sit together and chat about whether I waked up for Fajer today or not?! If yes than any request I ask will be easily accepted under some condition! If not than probably this would not be a good time for "taking" but rather will be the best time for "giving" either by talking about my personal achievements or exposing my future objectives.

I would also start a new physiological discussion about some of his thoughts that I read on his novels; it will be more enjoyable when we hold different point of views?! If I disagreed with one of my father's ideological theories that means that I gave him the best gift ever; I will reach the highest level of father to son satisfaction! He won't mind sitting with me all day just to master his convincing skills on me! And to tell you the truth I always enjoy it! :)



While sitting with my parents and enjoying my time I would get an SMS message from one of my friends asking if I ate breakfast or not? And I'll reply "yes I already did, thanks for the offer"

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..and with all this real live visualization that I was thinking of during my class; setting myself in another place and time; I looked back to my professor and asked a question just to take credit for participation..

(Why do we see a company that doesn't have an efficient and effective marketing strategy but still makes profit on the other hand?) WOW .. this question really worked? She totally opened a new line of dialogue and started a new discussion with the class..

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After class ended I said to myself
Stop living in regret?! Stop throwing useless doubts!? Only 10 months left to go back home holding my MBA degree and ready to live my dream!

*This article was written in Strananhan Hallway at the College of Business between my two classes on Tues. Oct 23rd

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Ramadan

Asalam Alaikum



I would like to congratulate you on this holy month RAMADAN.
May Allah bless you and accept your fasting and prayers!!

Let's try to increase our iman and devote our time for the sake of Allah.
Ramadan will be the best opportunity to get closer to Allah SWT.

‘When Ramadaan comes, the doors of Paradise will be opened and the doors of Hell will be closed, and the devils will be chained.’

Fasting, praying at time, reciting Qura'n, giving charity, avoiding haram, smiling, praying at the msajid, feeding the poor, controlling your desires, being a good Muslim should be in our daily basis during this month to reflect our lives for the years after!

Ramadan should be a refreshing start where we remind ourselves to the true purpose of life which is to please Allah!
May Allah accept our deeds, better us as Muslims, and grant us paradise.

Ramadan Kareeeeeem!!!

Best Wishes,
Abdulrahman
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Happiness Vs. Success

Is there a big difference between Success and Happiness?

Are those words alike?

Let's try to emphasis and illustrate those two meanings.
Success is when you set a goal for yourself and reach it through your ultimate effort and work. Happiness is basically satisfaction from within yourself. So we have to know that not all successful people are happy and not all happy people are successful. That's a fact!! That's why we see many people who have reached high level of fame but still commits suicide at the end! Meanwhile; we see decent people who lives the most pleasant life compared to others.

So what is the secret?

My personal opinion on the main difference between those two words is that for a person to be successful he have to achieve requirements in a certain criteria that his society draw for him; but earning happiness comes through requirements you set for yourself to achieve your own satisfaction!

Ask yourself which is more important to you? I know it's always better to have both of them but let's say that you have to choose one from both? What will your decision be?

Sadly we see many people choose to satisfy others rather than themselves. Others sacrifice their own personal happy life for the sake of earning recognition or increasing wealth! They think that happiness comes through success with the rules that life plays.

A very influential quote I always used to say
"Never seek happiness outside yourself"

Or a great quote from Dr. Salah Alrashed
"Happiness comes to a person who learn from his past, always enthusiastic on his present, and optimistic to his future"

And of course a great quote from my father Dr. Basheer
"Who ever control his emotions: will enjoy his life and achieve his goals"

So they all agree that it's all about self esteem, controlling your feelings, and the way you treat yourself. And take this word from me. No matter what people say about happiness; it's in your hand; go ahead and build it yourself.

Just don't worry, be happy by Bobby Mcferrin
A great song from Bobby an artist I never heard of but he seems enjoying life. Great lyrics and fantastic Video Clip!

Wish you a pleasant and a happy life~
Peace :)

رد الدكتور بشير على مقالة ها إبتلاك الله؟

زادني شرف حين أطل على مدونتي

وزادني نور حين علق على مقالتي

رد والدي وقائدي على حيرتي

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قرأت مقالتك وعجبت بحسن عبارتك

وعرفت قدر ذاتك وادركت امكاناتك

فانت متميز بعطاءتك ولقد توقفت عند عباراتك

حول مفهوم الابتلاء في حياتك واردت ان اشارك ردا على مقالاتك

فبادئ ذي بدء ليس المقصود بالابتلاء نوع محدد يتمثل بالداء وانعدام الدواء وليس المقصود به كذلك النقم دون التطرق الى النعم القضية واضحة وضوح الشمس في رابعة النهار ونبلوكم بالشر والخير فتنة

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واريد ان الفت نظرك واخوانك من حولك ان كل شاب مسلم في امريكا مبتلى بدينه, والابتلاء لايعني الشر وانما يعني التمحيص, فانت على سبيل المثال وكل الاخرين مثلك لايراكم الا الله ومع ذلك فانت تتقيه ولايعرف بما تعمل الا الله ومع ذلك انت تصلي له ولاتقطع صلاتك وملتزم باوقاتك وفرائضك

أليس في هذا الالتزام المتصل ابتلاء متواصل عجبا لشباب يعبدون الله كانهم يرونه ويخافون بالغيب ليس لديهم حسيب ولارقيب الا الله اليس هذا قمة الطاعة والابتلاء بمعنى التمحيص بلى وربي

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ولهذا فان كل شاب متبلى بصحته وشبابه ووقته اما ان يقضيه بالطاعة واما ان يقضيه بالمعصية والخيار له وكل اختيار له اثار ويتحمل الانسان اثار القرار, الابتلاء لايعني الشدة وانما يعني النعمة قبل النقمة والله العليم حكيم في اختيار مايصلح للعبد

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خذ على سبيل ذلك سليمان عليه السلام لم يبتلى بالنقم وانما اعطي النقم ليشكر او يكفر وقد اختار الشكر

دواود عليه السلام اعطي النصر ليشكر

عبدالرحمن بن عوف من البشرين في الجنة اعطي اموالا لاحصر لها

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القضية فيما يصلح للانسان سواء كان في عالم النقم او النعم وليس بالضرورة ان يبلى الانسان بالشر وما اراه من شباب الاسلام في امريكا انهم في اعلى درجات الاختبار في ايمانهم فهم لايراقبون الا الله ولايعبدون سواه

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لك تحياتي على مقالتك ولك دعائي ان يوفقك

هل أبتلاك الله؟

(( إذا مرت حياتك سهله من غيرإبتلاءات .. فعلم أن إيمانك فيه خلل ))

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حينها بدأت أغوص في بحر أفكاري حتى أعتلتني الأمواج واحده تلوه الأخرة حينما سمعت هذه الكلمة من أخونا أحمد

صدقي في درس الحياة بعد الممات الذي أقيم في جامعة تلويدو لطلبة المسلمين

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فبدأ يؤيد كلامه بشده,, ويدقق على هذه النقطة,, حتى أحسست أنه يخاطبني ويقصدني في هذا الموضوع,, وقال أن من علامة حب الله للعبد الإبتلاء,, وأنظروا إلى قصص الأنبياء عليهم أفضل الصلاة والتسليم,, لا يخلوا نبي إلا وأصابه ما أصابه من النكد والتعب أوالغل والحسرة أوالعذاب والشده أوالعوائق والأمراض وغيرها من أمور الإبتلاء

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وأنصتُ مستمعاً لحديث الرسول صلى الله عليه وسلم حين قال

(إذا أراد الله بعبده الخيرعجل له العقوبة في الدنيا, وإذا أراد الله بعبده شر أمسك عنه حتى يوافيه يوم القيامة) أو كما قال

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فأوجستُ في نفسي خيفة,, وقررت أن أعطي هذا المعنى قدر كبير من همي وفكري

وسألت نفسي سؤال,, ألم يبتليني الله عز وجل من قبل؟

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لقد أصابني سهم الشك وشعور الخوف من هذه الكلمة قائلاً لنفسي أن حياتي تمر في أحسن حال؟

هل هذا معناه أن إيماني فيه خلل؟

لا شك أن العوائق والفتن والإبتلاءات تحول عند الجميع,, سواء مؤمن أو مشرك

وأعلم أن الله إذا أحب عبداً أبتلاه

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ويقول تبارك وتعالى أحسب الناس أن يقولوا اَمنا وهم لا يفتنون

فأين الفتن التي أصابتني؟ وأين الإبتلاءات عني؟

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فحواري مع نفسي كان شفاء دائي

وسألت نفسي بعض الأسألة

هل يريد الله منا أن نبحث عن الإبتلاء؟
إن الله رحيم ويحب أن يرا نعمه على عباده

نعمتان مغبون فيهما كثير من الناس الصحة والفراغ

هل هذا معناه أن من كان في صحة وعافيه أن إيمانه فيه خلل؟

هل كل الإنبياء مبتلون؟

قول الرسول إن الله إذا أحب عبداً إبتلاه؟
هل معناه أننا يجب علينا أن نبحث عن الأبتلاء لأنه علامة الرضا

في الحديث الاخر يقول

إن الله إذا أحب عبداً دعا جبريل، فقال: إني أحب فلاناً فأحبه، قال : فيحبه جبريل ثم ينادي في السماء فيقول: إن الله يحب فلاناً فأحبوه فيحبه أهل السماء، ثم يوضع له القبول في الأرض

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فالإبتلاء هو علامة حب وليست العلامة الوحيده لمحبة الله لعبده

وقد خصها الله تعالى ليثبت عباده المؤمنين ويرزقهم بشيئ خيرا منه يوم القيامة

من ترك شئ لله عوضه الله خيرا منه

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وأتتمت التفكير وعلمت أن الله أبتلاني بأمور لست بصدد أن أذكرها
ولكني غيرت صورة هذا الإبتلاء وأستبدلته بصورة الصبر والثقة بالله

فكان ميزان ثقتي بالله يفوق ميزان الإبتلاء حتى أني نسيت البلاء نفسه

فإن الله يبتلي من شاء من عباده ليختبر إيمانهم ويرى إن كان هذا الإمتحان يزعزع شيء من عقيدتهم أو يزيدهم إيمانا ويقينا وطلب منا الصبر عند الصدمة الأولى

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فقد قال الرسول صلى الله عليه وسلم

(( عجباً لأمر المؤمن, إن أصابته سراء شكر فكان خير له, وإن أصابته ضراء صبر فكان خير له))

فيجب أن تكون هناك ثقة كبيرة بين العبد وربه,, حينما يؤمن أن كل الحوادث التي تمر في حياته هو خير له

فقد قال الله لا تحسبوه شر لكم بل هو خير لكم

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والرسول صلى الله عليه وسلم كان إذا جاء أمر على ما يحب قال

الحمدالله الذي بنعمته تتم الصالحات

وإذا جاء الأمر على غير ما يحب قال

الحمدالله على كل حال

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فيجب أن تكون صورة الإنسان للبلاء أنه حب من الله

وأيضاً إذ مرت عليه حياته سهله يجب على أن يحمد الله ويشكره

A Lesson

At the end of the MSA Night I was introduced to many students who were anxious and willing to work with the Muslims Students Association since I was elected a president. I have learned a valuable lesson during a dialogue with one of the girls I met.

Part of the Dialogue:

Me: So mashallah you are from Kuwait ...?
Her: Yes I am.
Me: I know someone called ... is he related to you?
Her: Yes .. He is my brother?!

"I stopped for a moment. I remember that guy so well. He was with me in Middle School 10 years ago! I remember that we never agreed on something. We had many conflicts. And with my "Child" thinking I made his life miserable. I used to pick on him in class and make a laugh out of him in front of my friends. We used to physically fight against each other.. and to tell you the truth this guy was strong!! I sometimes suffer some detentions and punishments from my teachers for the sake of harming him. And one of things I established was a disrespectful slogan that many students used after me until he became widley known for it."

Me: Wow .. Do you know that we used to fight amongst each other?
I didn't expect this answer
Her: Yes .. We know everything .. We still remember you!
Me: You still remember me .. What do you mean?
Her: Well were you not the guy who used to cal my brother _ _ _ !

Here was the shock!!

After riding back home. I thought about this dialogue for a moment. I mean WOW.
The family still remembers all the things I did to their son! So whatever a person do to the people, memories will not be erased from their minds forever. If you do good they will remember it; if you do bad they will remember it.

Life passes away so fast. I've graduated from college. My personality have changed and I made many great things in life. This family will probably forgive or start a new page with me; but they will still remember this 12 years old Abdulrahman bothering their son!

فمن يعمل مثقال ذرة خيراً يره

ومن يعمل مثقال ذرة شراً يره

Note:

Last days with this person were great in middle school. We became friends and I invited him several times to join us in a social gathering with my friends. :)

My Moon!

Please forgive me if I’m out of words. As much as I assemble the sentences; I could not express my true feeling toward the most beautiful creation on this universe! My mother.

Someone criticized me saying "how come you have your father's picture in the blog, but not your mother?" Well thanks for bringing that up. My mother is called Mona Albader. In Arabic "Albader" means the full moon; where the moon is at its highest level of beauty, spread brightness to the world and guide people from darkness. That's exactly how I see my mother. She is the moon of my life! Just looking at her smile or listening to her voice, or breathing around her is more valuable to me than everything on this earth. So this picture is in harmony with my mother's light! She is the beauty, light, and guide in my life.


Heart whisper
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Our mother is the most important thing in our lives. Why not and the prophet peace be upon him said “Paradise is under her feet.” Respect, love, and be everything you can be; for the sake of pleasing and honoring your mother. What was the first word you said when going through hardship and painful time; Yummaa!! Her heart was wide open for you all day and night long; so you would find a warm and secured shelter to hide in.

Ask yourself; what did you do in return for this favor? I have an idea! Go to her and ask; what can I do to please you? Obey every order she gives you with love, mercy and compassion. One day “Fate” will come from the Devine and separate the two souls. Get prepared to have the tear of “sadness” and the smile of a confident person that knows that he did his best to “satisfy” his mother during her life.

“I love you mom” coming sensior through my blog. Please accept me as your obedient servant. I ask Allah to give you longevity in this life and please you with your respected and lovely sons and family. Ameen
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What contributions did my mother plant and built on me since my childhood? Hooooo. Let me take a deep breath!

“Many” would be the correct answer to the previous question.
But let me make is simple, informal, and write some of the touching and thoughtful moments that I've experienced from my lovely mother; we can grab many significant lessons from these stories which had a big impact on my life.

To be continued

حوار بيني وبين نفسي

كتبت هذه المقالة قبل 5 شهور
نقلتها من الكراسه إلى المدونه

خاطره بيني وبين نفسي

أجلس الان في قهوة ستاربكس داخل مكتبة بارنز أند نوبلز
وقد راودني الشعور أنا أكتب ما في خاطري
وأعبر عن ما في قلبي من مشاعر وأحاسيس
لست بكاتب ماهر أو محترف
ولكني مؤمن أن مشاعري ستسطر نفسها بين السطور

وعلى حد أعتقادي أنا مهما وصل الكاتب من قوة في الأسلوب
ومهما وصل المتحدث من خطابة وألقاء
ومهما وصل المخرج السينمائي من إماكنيات عالية بالتصوير
لن يستطيعوا أنا يكونوا الصورة الحقيقيه من مشاعر الإنسان
ولكن أملي أن يصل جزء كبير من هذه الصورة من خلال حبر قلمي

أكتب هذه الرسالة إلى نفسي, وما أحب هذه النفس إلى قلبي
وما أقرب هذه النفس لي حتى أصبحت تلازمني في حزني وسعادتي
وفي ضيقي وفرحي, وفي تعبي وراحتي, وفي لعبي وجدي

تعيش معي وقت الشدائد والأحزان, و وقت تجمع الأصحاب والأقران
تعرف كل شئ عني, المعلن والخفي
فإنها خازنة ذكرياتي, حتى بأشياء لن تطري على بالي

فوالله لم أجد في حياتي أوفى منها لي
فإنها أقرب الناس لي بل أقرب من خلي وأخواني
قد تعبت على بناء علاقة جيدة معها, وقد دربتها على أتباع الحق
وعلمتها أن نترك سويا ما لا ينفعني بالدنيا والاّخرة

قد البعض يضحك ويقول كيف تدرب نفسك؟
أأنت عاقل؟
أقولها بكل ثقة "نعم" دربتها وأحسنت تربيتها
لأن نفسك بطبيعتها تتبع الهوى وقد حرمتها من أتباعه
ونفسك إن لم تعلمها على العمل الدأوب ستتعود على الكسل
وإن لم تعلمها على الدراسة الجاده لفضلت النوم والملل
وإن لم تعلمها على أهمية العباداة والتقرب إلى الله لنخرطت في الشهوات والمعاصي

(نفسك إن لم تشغلها بالحق .. شغلتك بالباطل)

ومن هنا أرفع قبعتي تقديراً وحباً إلى نفسي المطيعة لي
فأنا فخور بها أشد الفخر
فكل نظرة أنظرها في المراّه أرى نفسي أشد الأعجاب بنفسي
أبتسم لها, أقبلها, أنظر لها بتمعن وأقول سيصبح لنا شأن عظيم في المستقبل
أنظر مرة أخرى بأبتسامه أكبر وأقول نعم أستحق أنا أكون عظيم
فالعظيم من الداخل ستبان عليه العظمى في الخارج

بدأ حوار بيني وبينها
وقالت: ما هو سر إعجابك بنفسك؟ ما الذي يميزك عن غيرك؟
أجبتها بسرعة لا يهمني شأن غيري ولا أحب المقارانات
فأنا مسؤول عن نفسي ولأتكلم عنها بكل شفافيه

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فأوقفتني نفسي وقالت: ألا ترى أن هذا الكلام تكبر؟
فأجبتها الصورة التي أضعها عن نفسي هي الواقع الذي أعيشه
فتوقعي سيصبح واقعي, وإن لم أذكر إيجابيات نفسي فمن سيذكرها
فأنا أعرف الناس وأحق الناس مدحاً بنفسي
فالثقة بالنفس هي من صفات القادة الناجحين
وقد قال الإمام الشافعي عن نفسه

علي ثياب لو يباع جميعها .. بفلس لكان الفلس منهن أكثرا
وفيهن نفس لو تقاس ببعضها .. نفوس الورى كانت أشد وأكبرا

فمعرفة الذات والتعامل معها أمر مهم
فقد عرفت نفسي وأيقنت التعامل معها
فوالله ما بعد هذه السعاده إلى قولي

(أحمدك وأشكرك ربي على هذه النعمة)

كانت هذه مشاعر دفاقه في قلبي أخرجتها من غير تكلف ولا تدبر
فهذا كلام قلبي قد خطه قلمي

15/9/2006

Who am I??

A consultant entered a room full of desperate people who are trying to have a mental self improvement in their "useless" life. He started his workshop by asking all the attendees to write 10 positive ideas about themselves. They stared at each other as the clock ticked with frozen pens on the Table. What a shame!!

The first step of self-esteem is knowing your self perfectly and respect those facts.
As we say it in Kuwait knowing your self from tick tick until Bye Bye ^_^

Who is Abdulrahman Alrashidi?

1- I'm a Muslim, an Arab, a Kuwaiti; and that's how I like to align them.

2- December 19th is that day where the world was blessed by me!

3- I'm a senior student pursuing my bachelor degree in the College of Business at the University of Toledo.

4- My major goal in this life is to please Allah and satisfy my parents. How important is life without those?!

5- Islam is the number one priority in this life.

6- I love Kuwait; born, lived, grown, learned, laughed, cried, and probably die there!

7- I always give my family serious attention. I love being around them.

8- Sometimes I'm confused.. When I'm around the people I get those serious impressions about me. But when I'm around the family, I happen to be the best comedian ever. Strange!

9- I have been around many spots in the world during the past 21 years of my great life. America, London, Paris, Turkey, Lebanon, Syria, Egypt, Saudi Arabia, Bahrain, Dubai, Kenya, Niagara Falls, Toronto, California, Florida, Chicago, New York, and even more.

10- I'm always proud of my parents. The people who are close to me can tell by listening to how much I talk about them. You can read all the contributions they gifted me with in this life from the here.

11- As a wise person who secures his valuable house with locked doors and regulates the people who enters and leaves; I do the same thing with people who try to enter my heart. But if they have reached this point I'll be the most kind and generous!

12- I'm always respectful, friendly, loyal to my friends in this life. I wish to be happy with them in this life and be blessed with their companianship next life.

13- My "only" Enemy in this life is "the devil" .. For that I give all the people in the world the chance to open dialogue, exchange thoughts, and respect one antoher.

14- Maybe you will find this so formal or impossible, but yes I never discriminate people based on their culture, gender, nationality or race. Didn't I mention I'm a Muslim :?

15- Since I was 10 years old, my mother used to leave the house and ask me to take care my younger brothers. When she comes back she realize that everything is under control with know lazy kids tricks! She always tell my Abdulrahman "You are a responsible man." Well thanks mother for these inspirational words which made increase my responsibility in life.

16- I have to admit.. I'm in Love! But can't tell you with who. Its a secret!

17- I always look at the positive and bright side of every situation I'm in. That I got from the teachings of Islam. Verse of the Quran "You probably will hate something but its good..."

18- Maaaan.. I hate it when I look dumb in front of those abbreviations that the people use while talking. For example "I'll send you a pm." or "In the business HNI is the most influential person." Come on!! Why do you assume that everyone understand RSU!!

19- Anyways .. Do you want to know my fav's ???!

Favorite Books: You don't need a title to be a leader; 7 Habits; Hibat Ala7lam.
Favorite Reciter: A7med Al3agmi
Favorite Artist: Cat Stevens
Favorite Monshed: 7mood Alkhother
Favorite Sport: Soccer
Favorite TV show: Lost
Favorite Leader: Malcolm X
Favorite Actor: Denzil Washington
Favorite Scholar: Yusuf Alqardawi, Hamza Yusuf
Favorite Shaiekh: Tariq Alsuwaidan, Mohammed Alawadi
Favorite Movies: MalcolmX, The Gladiator, The hurricane, Lean on me

20- I consider my self a conservative open minded Muslim. I would not compromise in any Islamic basis, in fact I love to have a chance to contribute even a "little" to my religion. Truly my prayer, servant of sacrifice, my life, my death is all for the sake of Allah. May Allah take away from any arrogant or hypocrite actions. Ameen

21- Think for a moment. How tough is it to have your beloved far away from your eyes for days, months or years. Real tough and sad Huh? You have nothing to do but wait until your eyes be delighted with his face again so your heart would see the light.. So how about having your own closest brother pass away from this life for good and the light will never bee seen. Do you know how painful it feels? Sitting alone with a tear and a cry with good memories would reduce the sadness the you hold in your heart, but being patient and having Faith that you're going to meet him again sometime takes out the pain completely. May Allah forgive "Sa'ad" and give us a better gathering in the highest level of Paradise with him and all my family. Ameen.

22- I was five years old when Sadam invaded Kuwait. I remember rare flashbacks on what we did in those moments. Check out this. While Iraqis were all over the cities stealing houses, torching innocent people, and firing supermarkets. People were already scared and most hiding in their houses. My father thought of an idea; he took me and my two older brothers for a ride using our bicycles to his friends house and kept telling us his wisdom quotes "Enjoy life" and so on!! He is either refusing to be a shameful slave or he was so careless and brave.. You Judge!

23- For the people who guessed that he was brave. I have a surprise for you; he was caught and send to Iraq for three months as a Prisoner of War. Look at where bravery could lead to?! :)

Coming up .. More and More things about me....

:: Love ::

Before I begin, let me start with this: my message here is not about love in the traditional Islamic way. Instead, it was written for those who are in “love” in today’s society to gain a better understanding to the questions to follow.

Are you in Love? How can you tell? By the way, what does the word “love” really mean?

Love has always been a subject that people are anxious to talk about. I consider it to be the emotional feeling that a person holds for another person, object, land, memorable place, or anything else that a person holds dear.

We have many examples from history to help us understand the meaning of love. For example, we’ve heard of stories of a person who would sail overseas and give his ultimate effort just to see his beloved! Another would kiss the ground of his lover's land just to satisfy a glimpse of his desire for her. Some people stay awake all night staring at their bedroom wall for hours assembling the beautiful images of a girl with crystal clear eyes and long hair that looks like shredded pearls, smelling the elegant aroma of her body, and hearing her soft voice as if it was coming from musical instruments; but when you come to reality, the truth is nowhere near those imaginations! Overall, we have witnessed that a man or woman will do anything just to please his beloved, even if, in the extreme cases, it leads to hell! Hey, who cares about heaven if this would satisfy them now?!?!

Hell? Yes. Did you not hear about the person who threw himself from the fifth floor of a building just because his girlfriend betrayed him! This guy cried day and night sending his girlfriend messages saying, "I'm nothing in this life without you, please reply to my message or something bad will happen to me." Another story comes from a person that sits on the beach watching the waves as they splash in front of him; and this long painful tear leaves his eye making its way down his cheek just because his lover forgot to congratulate him for his birthday! Poets have contributed painful feelings to our society by admitting that their lovers have broken their hearts. One poet said that he is willing to cut his hand to write her name with his own blood. This poet even went on to explain that even if he would see her every day and night, in every dream and in reality; this would still not satisfy him. He would love to sacrifice his life in exchange of the two spirits with her; so she can continue breathing happily in this life and he takes her place in the dark grave!!


How painful and bad is love?Isn’t it supposed to be a good feeling that a person carries?
Why do we see these negative circumstances on the person who carries the love?!

To me the best description of love was given in one of the “Tash ma Tash” episodes, a Saudi Arabian comedy. Some one named Hmaidan woke up in the morning and said, "Something is itching me in the bottom of my neck I don't know what it is." So his foolish brother Saidan said, with an innocent look, "Oh yeah...this is love wa ana abook" Thank you “Tash ma Tash” for these words; finally we have gotten something useful from you! Hmaidan is 100% right. Love is only an itch that comes to you. If you give this itch an important priority, treat it well, and take care of it all the time, it will get worse! But, if you just leave it alone and let it grow with wisdom, the pain will slowly disappear between your eyes and things will be under control.

Maybe someone will say, “Abdulrahman you will never understand because you have never been in love in your life!!” Well, DUH!!
If you consider love to be counting the beats of my heart as they beat faster when she calls me, or sweating while answering her call while I wait for a loving word from her, or spending all of my money buying prepaid phone cards to talk to her, or buying those expensive gifts for every upcoming event. Then yes, I have never been in this sad and yucky situation before. I have never accepted myself to be a slave under this kind of situation. I own my heart, and I'm the only one who gives the regulations on how to react with my emotional feelings. I never accept any automatic actions that my heart wants to take before balancing out the consequences.

Believe it or not... I am in love!
Did you forget that I am a normal human who carries desire, passion, emotions and feelings in his heart? But, a smart person is one who controls those feelings and knows how and when to react with them. Before falling in love, you must know the three “W’s.” That doesn’t mean the open line to an Internet explorer page! It is answering the three important questions of: whom, why, and what? And yes, those are the codes to open a perfect love line.

To be continued…

قل لي ما هو القرار

أنت من يحدد مسيرك بمجرد الإختيار

لا تقل هو- هي - هم - صديقي - الجار

حياتك بيدك

إما إلى العلا أو في إنحدار

هذه الحياة محدودة والدقائق فيها معدودة

هل ستنجح في الإختبار؟

ضع لنفسك أهدافاً

فمن جد وجد

ومن زرع حصد

وإنظر إلى حلاوة الأثار

لا تقلل من شأنك

إنظر لنفسك في المراّة

!وقل نعم أستطيع بكل إفتخار

تمتع بحياتك وأستثمر إمكانياتك وحدد غياتك

تكن بطل مغوار

من أطاع الله جعل له مخرجا

ومن أعرض عنه لن يرى فرجا

هل أستفدت من الإنذار؟

كم من خاسر أخراه

إين ما ألقى به الزمان سار
وكم من حرٍ .. أسير دنياه

وسجين .. يعيش عيشة الأحرار

أزرع بذرة .. تحصد

أفعل خيرا .. تأجر

أدرس .. تنجح

أعمل .. تلقى

حتى تصل إلى نهاية المشوار

هذا شعري أفضل من ملايين الأشعار

كن صاحب قرار

ترى الدنيا تبتسم لك في كل دار

كن صاحب قرار

ترى الفلس عندك يصبح دينار

كن صاحب قرا

رترى اليأس يفارقك حتى طار

يــــا إخــوانــــي كل خطوة تبدأ بالإختيار

تريد أن تعرف اخر المسار,,

قل لي .. ما هو القرار؟

16/6/2006

Bismillah

In the name of Allah, The most Merciful the most compassion.

In his name I start posting the first writting ever in this Blog.
This Blog will talk about my thoughts, opnions, and feelings in many issues.

Hope you will enjoy.

Salaam